Is it entertaining or hospitality? Entertaining is about you and impressing others. Hospitality is about serving others with a joyful heart and focusing on them. Our attitude and focus should be on serving our guests.
Entertaining is about elevating yourself. It’s about appearances, impressing others, and perfection which creates worry and doesn’t allow you to build authentic relationships.
What have you gained? It will not be a memorable evening for your guests because you will be caught up in the details and not on your guests. Don’t get me wrong, I love the beautiful table settings with the fine china and the beautiful table decor’ but our focus should not be on the outward appearances.
Hospitality is about serving others with a joyful heart. We are offering ourselves to Christ in obedience to the biblical command from Romans 12:13, “Pursue hospitality”. We are all to practice hospitality as a lifestyle, blessing others and living a life of generosity.
Hospitality is about building relationships and being guest-focused. It is not about perfection.
When we have a desire to live a lifestyle of hospitality it begins with our heart attitude. We are guest-focused rather than me-focused.
It is imitating the hospitality we have been shown by God. We have an open door policy with an open hand. We desire to share from our homes with whatever God has provided.
A Relaxed Environment
As the host, if you have a relaxed attitude that will help your guests to relax.
Always answer the door and welcome your guests into your home, thank them for coming, and tell them to make themselves at home.
- Everything Prepared and Ready to Eat
I like to have everything prepared and ready to eat by the time the first guest arrives. This helps with having a relaxed, stress-free atmosphere. You can focus on your guests and not have to be standing in the kitchen preparing the meal.
To help make meal preparation simple, check out my post Two Quick and Easy Recipes https://biblicalhospitality.com/?p=275&preview=true
- Focus on your guests needs
It’s in the details. Making sure their glasses are refilled, clearing their plates when they are finished with their meal. If a guest offers to help, allow them to help.
- Focus on the conversation
Make the conversation casual and low-key but focusing on open-ended questions that allow you to get to know them. For example, “Tell me about your family” instead of “Tell me about your wife and kids”. It is easy to have a conversation with another person when you ask them questions about themselves.
As you listen intently, you can key in on interests or hobbies they may have.
- Be authentic
Keep your focus on Jesus with a grateful heart asking Him to show you who you can share His love with. Your guests will appreciate the casual atmosphere and that you took the time to focus on them. They may not remember what was for dinner but they will remember how you made them feel.
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Serving others with a joyful heart,